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    Posted: 04 Jun 14 at 12:50pm
Upon reflection, maybe the 'Snowflake' series was a bad time of year to encourage my wife into sailing.

However, I was taken aback by how fiercely competitive she suddenly was. I imagined her ditching my helming skills quite quickly, and finding someone to take her to the top of the fleet...

...if she'd be able to cope with the way that boats do not remain 100% vertical at all times.
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Originally posted by Blue One

As a man who's wife tried to teach him to sail many years ago( it did not go well! LOL) I can only agree with the advice about about getting a third party to teach your partner to sail, then thinking about what boat/boats to get.

Elaine and I still cannot race together in the same boat LOL, but we have had over twenty of fun and enjoyment sailing against each other, in a variety of singlehanders and I would not swap that for anything. Smile Smile


I must have been lucky as I taught my wife to sail in a twin trapeze dinghy, when even I had not trapeze helmed before.

A lot of laughs, plenty of bruises, but we can still sail together 16 years later!

One thing I put it down to was that I was a Sunsail skipper for their Port Solent fleet when I was a student over 20 years ago. Your crew were your customers and the boat was not yours, so you just learned to be relaxed about it all. The only time I had to shout was when I had to teach a boatful of under 14s in a force 6 - completely ignorant of any dangers...
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Staying relaxed is indeed key.  

My ex was fearlessly confident in me until we had a capsize mid-race and I got a bit 'John McEnroe' about the time were were losing.  From then on it was all downhill with her sailing confidence and enjoyment , irreversibly it seemed, unfortunately.
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As a woman and regular poster here I know that being warm and comfortable is important to us, especially with something new, so whatever you sail, if she's a beginner, get her properly kitted out so she is warm enough and dry - lend your drysuit as you can suffer the wet if necessary. If she's not cold and uncomfortable, she can concentrate on the actual crewing.

Then make sure she isn't having to sit on cleats or perch on the centreboard - start with a boat with a comfortable thwart and side decks such as the club vision or wayfarer.
Once she's learned in that and is a confident crew, move up to something more racy.
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Er Indoors moans about cleats, plus wears her drysuit pretty much year round.  She also hates crewing, especially for me, but is very at home in her brand new Cadbury purple lightning.  I count it as a major success that she now likes sailing enough to buy her own brand new boat, but it has taken quite some time.
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Nessa- you neglected to mention 'and registered on the Y&Y forum to cement her addiction'.... that surely is the cherry on top???
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And my wife's idea of a good sail is being jammed in the front end of a Firefly in a competitive race - so long as I shut up and sail - not because of any arguements, but because she knows what a crap result her boat will get if the helm is ranting...

According to her, going for a cruise is boring.

Mind, I think warm water and sunshine in any form would be welcomed, especially if Pimms is involved.
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Wow I bet that that was a bit of fun for all involved. She doesn't do anything as fun as that but we do keep a Jeanneau yacht 57 in Gibraltar which is always good fun to go out to.
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Originally posted by winging it

Er Indoors moans about cleats, plus wears her drysuit pretty much year round.  She also hates crewing, especially for me, but is very at home in her brand new Cadbury purple lightning.  I count it as a major success that she now likes sailing enough to buy her own brand new boat, but it has taken quite some time.


Yes there is no escape Wingeing It.
It is true about the cleats - and the drysuit.  I hate feeling wet.  I might be persuaded to wear my waterproof socks and rain trousers if it was a bright sunny day and I was unlikely to fall in...

I prefer single handing as then it's my fault when it all goes pearshaped, and I can try things out without annoying someone else.  I did go on a level 3 instructed by the Great SI herself and it wasn't as bad as I thought, especially helming for the lady who knew where the wind/gusts were coming from (my failing).  I realised I don't mind helming (why is it that the less experienced/female is always assumed to want to crew?) a double hander quite so much so maybe we should get Winging It back playing with spinnys which is what she likes best.
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Post Options Post Options   Quote canoeslicer Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 05 Jun 14 at 9:20am
Lol that was one of the things I had to promise to get her instantly. Lol

Great suggestions thanks for those.

The only thing that worries me about going down the Wayfarer is I know for a fact that if the boat isn't capable of lots of speed she will get bored real easy. To give you an idea she's just changed her 600 cc motorbike for a 1000 cc as the 600 was to tame and she can ride both better than 95% of the guys I know.
Likewise I also don't want to scare her and put her off hence my dilemma of boat as she also wants us to be able to take the little one off for a zoom round the bay.
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