Sharing a trophy?

Hi, hope this is the best forum to ask:- What is the etiquette for sharing a trophy won by a double
hander dinghy?  

My helm and I are both teenager sailors and a couple of months ago we won a competition with
a trophy that has to be returned in a year. I know my helm is very proud. Since
winning she has kept the trophy but she never mentions it when we go sailing.    We get on fine together and I enjoy sailing with her, but sometimes I feel disappointed be cause it
was a team effort after all.  Ok it is
her boat we use and she has been sailing longer than me, but I am unsure
if she is being fair or is thisd normal.  I dont want to upset her but then I would love to know
what is normal here?  

many thx  

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Hikerrock Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Newbie Joined: 01 Jul 11 Location: United kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hikerrock Report Post Quote Reply Topic: Sharing a trophy? Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 12:36am
	Hi, hope this is the best forum to ask:- What is the etiquette for sharing a trophy won by a double hander dinghy? My helm and I are both teenager sailors and a couple of months ago we won a competition with a trophy that has to be returned in a year. I know my helm is very proud. Since winning she has kept the trophy but she never mentions it when we go sailing. We get on fine together and I enjoy sailing with her, but sometimes I feel disappointed be cause it was a team effort after all. Ok it is her boat we use and she has been sailing longer than me, but I am unsure if she is being fair or is thisd normal. I dont want to upset her but then I would love to know what is normal here? many thx

GybeFunny Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Far too distracted from work Joined: 27 Oct 09 Online Status: Offline Posts: 403	Post Options Post Reply Quote GybeFunny Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 7:28am
	I have always done 6 months each.

JimC Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Visit Member's Homepage Really should get out more Joined: 17 May 04 Location: United Kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 6660	Post Options Post Reply Quote JimC Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 7:55am
	It depends on how ugly the trophy is and how much room it takes up in the house...

Pierre Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Visit Member's Homepage Really should get out more Joined: 15 Mar 04 Location: United Kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 1532	Post Options Post Reply Quote Pierre Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 8:17am
	Yes she should at least give you a share of it. As you say, it was a team effort. Good crew are like gold dust..... There is an informal organisation called the "Crew's Union". I am sure some of them will see this and give you the benefit of their experience. :-)

rogerd Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Really should get out more Joined: 25 May 04 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1076	Post Options Post Reply Quote rogerd Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 8:26am
	On the rare occasion that WE have won a trophy we have done about 6 months each.

Rupert Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Really should get out more Joined: 11 Aug 04 Location: Whitefriars sc Online Status: Offline Posts: 8956	Post Options Post Reply Quote Rupert Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 1:33pm
	It is usually the responsibility of the boat owner to get the trophy back to the club for the next year, so I can see why it would gather dust at their house. Ask - she may not realize you have any interest in it. I tend (depending on age) to try to make sure my crew gets a more than fair share of the drinkable/edible bounty.
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Guests Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Guest Group	Post Options Post Reply Quote Guests Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 4:52pm
	I'm in the fortunate position of living with my crew, so She polishes them for 6 months and then it's my turn. If she values you as crew (which I'm sure she does) then she will gladly respond to a friendly request to "share" the trophy.

Late starter Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Far too distracted from work Joined: 24 Feb 07 Online Status: Offline Posts: 481	Post Options Post Reply Quote Late starter Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 11:25pm
	Sharring is definitely appropriate, your helm may have forgotten so a gentle reminder may be in order.

Hikerrock Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Newbie Joined: 01 Jul 11 Location: United kingdom Online Status: Offline Posts: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hikerrock Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 01 Jul 11 at 11:42pm
	Thank you for answering, it seems sharing is very reasonable. Good. Before asking you I just didnt know if I was thinking unreasonable things and breaking some etiquette or unwritten rules. I'll wait for the 6mths to pass and then see what helm does. Helm is a nice person and much more sailing experience so she will hopefully offer a share without me saying anything. If not I’ll see how I still feel and I know I can carefully ask her without being worried. Later this year I’ll try really hard to remember to let you know what happens! Thank you again to everyone who replied, a nice friendly forum.

Guests Send Private Message Find Member's Posts Guest Group	Post Options Post Reply Quote Guests Quote Reply Posted: 02 Jul 11 at 11:22am
	Good communication between crews is essential, on and off the water.